A Behind-The-Scenes Look (And Understanding) of My 'Goddess Vibes' Birthday Dinner Party
Birthdays are always super nostalgic. I consider them to be your own personal new year: a powerful time to cast a vision, set intentions and refresh your goals.
It’s also the perfect time to throw an amazing, indulgent and fabulous celebration. Because everyone deserves their very own day.
And hey, I’m a Leo y’all.
This year was no different, except that I decided to take it up a notch by hosting a “Goddess Vibes” Themed Dinner Party for 25 of my most treasured friends and family. Yes, it was beautiful and yes, it was fabulous and super woo. (More on that in a sec.)
But there was a deeper “WHY” behind this theme. You see, over the course of the last few years...something remarkable and totally unexpected has occurred.
I have become a CEO.
I run a seven-figure company. I make tough decisions all day long. I put out fires each week. I present to clients, pitch to potential new ones and empower my staff. It is literally my job to be “on” and take care of dozens of people (between clients, employees and vendors) for a living.
I am thankful for what I do, and where I am in my career. There is not a day that goes by where I don’t stop to reflect with gratitude, even if it’s just for a moment.
And yet, all this action, energy, assertion and DOING often leaves me depleted. Resentful. Sad. Burnt out. And out of alignment with my true self.
If I’m going to be honest, sometimes I miss the way things once were. I harken back to when I was a younger woman, and even when I was a young girl. When my life was less complicated, busy and intense. I used to write poetry. I danced by myself in my room on the regular. I took long bike rides each weekend and stopped to smell flowers. I star gazed for fun. I talked on the phone for hours with people I love and had deep, nourishing conversations with them. I relished in the experience of my life. Nothing felt rushed.
In a practical sense, I let others figure out the directions. I chewed my food more slowly. I listened more, and talked less. I made time to see my therapist and read fiction. I took greater care of myself, and perhaps more significantly, I allowed others to take care of me.
My 37th year was beautiful. I expanded in ways beyond my wildest dreams. I grew an incredible team, traveled internationally to speak on stages, deepened my love for my husband in profound and unexpected ways and got a six-figure book deal.
But, I also got really, really sick. I made hasty decisions out of scarcity and impatience. I became more introverted, more particular and more anxious. And it all stemmed from the sheer exhaustion of being in my Masculine all the time.
The Feminine, also known as the Goddess, represents surrender. She represents joy. Wisdom. Trust. Beauty. Flow. Play. Alchemy. Stillness. Love. And, most of all, Being.
In planning my 38th birthday dinner, I wanted to cultivate the Divine Feminine Goddess as an invocation: to send me into this next year of my life with a potent, intentional and refreshed energy aligning back to my true self, all the while being surrounded by the people who make me feel like my true self the most.
And so, I did just that.
On Friday, August 2nd, I hosted a Goddess Vibes Dinner Party at the beautiful DL Loft. I chose this space because it felt super feminine, with attention to ornate detail and beauty. Owner Debi Lily is a master event planner, with Parisian inspiration galore, so it was the perfect space.
I hired the phenomenal FoodbyFARE, a women-owned, plant-based catering company (with fast casual outposts located throughout the city) to curate a colorful, juicy, sexy, warming, Latin/Mexican inspired menu. For hors d'oeuvres, we snacked on chili-spiced mango spears, cucumber and green tomato gazpacho and garlic tomatillo on sourdough toast.
Our 3-course meal started with a watermelon jicama salad with feta and cilantro, a main course of sopes with heavenly mole opped with roasted baby vegetables, and finished with an avocado chocolate mousse topped with rose water and cacao nibs for dessert.
We also ended our meal with some birthday cake (duh) that I had custom designed with the moon phases and crystals made out of frosting from Alliance Bakery.
I wanted every woman to feel like a Goddess, so I partnered up with A Crowning Event, a one-of-a-kind of flower workshop, and each of my beautiful friends got to custom design (and build!) her very own flower crown.
I brought in the Goddess statues of Lakshmi (Goddess of Abundance), Athena (Goddess of Wisdom), Aphrodite (Goddess of Beauty), Gaia (Mother Earth) and Isis (Goddess of Past Lives) and created an altar for them. Because Goddesses need to be worshipped.
I also brought in Goddess face decals for everyone. Because, duh.
As each guest entered the space, I sprayed them with “B Open” aura spray from the Ruby Room, encouraging them to stay open to the possibilities of the night. They also were asked to pick out a tiny silk satchel out of a bowl, with a special gift inside and were told not to open it until dinner.
When we all sat down for dinner, I stood up for my toast and asked them all to open their satchels. Everyone had gotten a Moonstone crystal (the stone of feminine healing and new beginnings), along with a tiny scroll of paper.
I wrote out 25 words (and their full definitions) to describe the Goddess, and dropped a different word into each satchel. We went around the room and one at a time, we read our Goddess definition words aloud. The words were:
Passion | Wild | Fierce | Wisdom | Love | Sacred | Alchemical | Kind | Play | Surrender | Trust | Protection | Magic | Connection | Beauty | Sensual | Mystical | Flow | Bold | Gratitude | Nurture | Resilience | Authentic | Confidence | Power
And in that moment together, we invoked the Goddess, as a collective. The energy shifted. People were present. We were connected. We were in joy. We were in flow. We were in sheer celebration. The night continued with toasts from my friends and husband, Unicorn Oracle cards (obviously) and dancing it out to Robyn.
Right before the party started, as I was getting ready to leave for the venue, I got super still and set an intention for the night. My intention came to me, like a whisper in my heart and it said:
“My intention is to open people’s hearts tonight. I want to give my community an experience that lifts them up, shifts their vibration and reminds them of their true nature of Love.”
It was an invocation indeed. Not just for me, but for all of us. Because the world cannot heal, and the planet can not shift if we try to do it alone. The Goddess is in service of the collective greater good, always.
Goddess Vibes live within me, and they live within you.
And so...I commit to a year filled with a bit more patience, grace and forgiveness --- for myself and for others. A year filled with moments that are relished versus rushed. A year filled with play and delight, for no other reason than for the sake of it. A year filled with self-worship towards my heart, my body, my talent and my spirit. A year filled with Loving Kindness, for I have learned such a thing is not an expression of weakness, but of profound strength.
I hope you’ll join me.
With Love + Goddess Vibes for Life,